In the pursuit of flat stomachs, many of us find ourselves caught up in a whirlwind of control-top underwear, slimming gels, endless planking sessions, and supplements promising a flatter tummy. But what if, instead of trying to change it, we learned to embrace our midsections?
For many, the belly becomes a focal point of self-consciousness. Whether it feels too large, too soft, or not adequately toned, the discomfort we feel with our bellies is a common experience. Yet, despite healthy eating and regular exercise, that little bit of extra padding might persist. Sylvie Benkemoun, a psychologist and psychotherapist who is also the president of the Groupe de Réflexion sur l’Obésité et le Surpoids (GROS), offers insight into why we struggle with belly acceptance and how we might overcome these feelings to lead happier, lighter lives.
The Challenge of Accepting Our Midsection
In an era where body positivity is celebrated, you might think physical scrutiny would be less common. However, the reality is quite different. Our bodies are more scrutinized than ever—judged and often criticized. This societal behavior ensures our physical insecurities are far from resolved.
“A physical complex,” Benkemoun explains, “is an insecurity and discomfort related to a part of our body, in this case, the belly, which can be a source of embarrassment for many women and men. These individuals may fear others’ judgments and go to great lengths for a flat stomach, sometimes risking their health.”
This complex often stems from unrealistic beauty standards propagated by media, advertising, and particularly social media, which frequently showcases retouched, idealized bodies. While curvy thighs, bouncy buttocks, and full hips are celebrated, flat stomachs remain the gold standard.
Negative comments, mocking, or deeply embarrassing moments regarding our bellies can significantly contribute to these complexes. Additionally, our tendency to compare ourselves to others—whether on social media or in daily life—can exacerbate our insecurities.
“When people have a visible belly, relatives or even strangers feel compelled to comment on our weight or health, often positioning themselves as health experts. However, these remarks can be more harmful than helpful,” notes Benkemoun.
The Stigma and Its Consequences
People affected by this complex suffer greatly as excess weight is often unfairly associated with laziness, lower intelligence, decreased work efficiency, and lack of self-control—stigmatizing stereotypes that stem from misunderstandings about overweight and obesity.
As a result, those who are self-conscious about their bellies may develop low self-esteem, focusing increasingly on their physical appearance and often feeling devalued. This intense focus can lead to chronic anxiety, social withdrawal, and even avoidance behaviors, limiting participation in activities that might expose their stomachs.
Embracing Your Belly
Navigating these challenges requires a shift in perspective, starting with the acknowledgment that our self-worth is not tied to the flatness of our stomachs. Building self-esteem involves focusing on authenticity, empathy, compassion, and personal achievements rather than adhering to unattainable physical standards.
As we continue to confront these deeply ingrained societal norms, remember the importance of kindness—to ourselves and others. Celebrating body diversity and challenging stereotypes can help foster a more accepting and supportive environment for everyone.
Have you struggled with body image related to your belly? How have you coped or started to overcome these insecurities? Share your stories and let’s discuss ways to support each other in our journeys toward self-acceptance.
